I believe that effective healing is built on eight fundamental principles:
1. Healing Happens in Safety
True healing can only occur in an environment where you feel safe, acknowledged, and supported. An important part of this safety is consistency and dependability.
Growing up, our caregivers may have been on and off, hot and cold, supportive and then nowhere to be found. As a Transforming Touch® provider, I prioritize clear communication, timing, and consent.
2. The Body Holds the Story
Trauma is not just a mental experience; it’s stored in the nervous system and requires a somatic approach for processing. Transforming Touch® gives the body the nourishment it needs to organically heal itself.
3. Compassion is the Foundation
Cultivating self-compassion is essential for breaking free from cycles of shame and self-judgment. Often, this begins with compassion from another.
When someone we trust can see us with grace, it gives us permission to do the same. Humans are wired for connection and belonging. Another’s embrace tells our body that we are innately good.
4. We Heal in Connection
Trauma occurs in relationship, and healing does, too. In our childhood, there can be many small traumas that pile up over the years. Finding healthy, secure attachments begins to repair these wounds.
Though I am not Christian, I see the beauty in having a Fatherly God who loves us unconditionally. No matter what their circumstances, one has this internal connection to a loving source.
5. The Past Lives in the Present
Unresolved childhood wounds continue to influence our present experiences. Recognizing this is the first step toward healing.
By meeting the needs of those younger parts of us in the past, they release their defensive accommodations based in hurt. When the past is not weighing us down, the present becomes that much more vibrant.
6. Integration Leads to Wholeness
Healing is not about eliminating pain; it’s about embracing and integrating all parts of ourselves with love and acceptance.
In Transforming Touch®, we don’t try to get rid of any ‘bad habits’ you might have. We trust that as your nervous system gains more regulation over time, your body naturally releases coping mechanisms that no longer serve you.
7. Healing is Non-Linear
Personal growth is not a straight path; it involves a journey of deepening self-awareness, learning, and expansion. Often, it feels like two steps forward, one step back.
There may be a week of bliss and inner freedom; then a week of feeling your deepest inner darkness. Even when it’s painful, most people have a sense that this is what they need to embrace on their healing journey.
8. You Are Your Own Healer
The true power to heal resides within you. It’s not something we can conceptualize or put a finger on. It’s the mysterious and stunning capacity of life to make things new.
Please reach out if you have any questions or would like to connect. I’ve learned all of these principles firsthand from those who supported my journey. May this interconnected web of healing and joy touch us all!
Nurturing Wellness 
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